Consensual Rape Unitarian Universalist Style Courtesy Of U*U BDSM Dom Desmond Ravenstone
U*U BDSM Dom has started a Big Fat U*U Furor. After a stint in New York City, seeing a victim of anal impalement on the Statue of Liberty's torch go “into full paroxysm” on the way to hospital, the blogger for Unitarian Universalist BDSM devotees returned to Boston with symptoms of PTSD to say nothing of U*U BDSM. After refusing to seek professional help, he decided to have a U*U BDSM "scene" with someone he knew and trusted.
Not just any U*U BDSM. Violent, brutal U*U BDSM.
And if *that* wasn’t enough for Unitarian Universalists to *swallow*, he wrote a RAVENSTONE'S REFLECTIONS blog post about it.
Desmond Ravenstone’s original piece, plus follow-up coverage on CU*UBS.com and The Emerson Avenger blog, has garnered a host of responses, from kudos to Big Fat U*U Curiosity to declarations of disgust and amateur diagnoses of his being a Big Fat U*U Narcissist or just plain nuts. But in all of the discussions, strangely enough. . . no one has brought up the fact that Desmond Ravenstone is hardly the first Unitarian Universalist to use a U*U BDSM rape fantasy as a therapeutic tool. And they’re *probably* nuts for doing so too. . .
How do I know U*Us ask?
Because I’ve simply read their U*U blog posts. . .
"Ravishment" is the way Desmond Ravenstone and "Less Than Perfect" Unitarian Universalist "pastor" Rev. Mack Mitchell got themselves "into" U*U BDSM. Desmond claims that getting into U*U BDSM was "not without considerable hesitation and a great deal of discussion". I am not sure how much hesitation or discussion was involved in Rev. Mack Mitchell's decision to engage in the "ravishment" of teenage Tibetan refugees, although I expect that their was considerable hesitation and pleas for mercy from his victims. . . Desmond Ravenstone claims that his "partner" at the time introduced him to the online community of devotees aka psychophants; and that in those days, it was hard to even maintain chatrooms and discussion lists without internet service providers shutting these U*Us down. Desmond learned that this form of U*U BDSM aka erotic role-play, with all its primal energy, was sublimely complex in pathology and methodology. And he found that the cautious and pathological approach he had cult*ivated was a much-prized commodity – not least of which because it demanded intensive listening.
The first woman to "stage a scene" as Consensual Rape Therapy™ didn’t inform Desmond Ravenstone that such dubious "therapy" was her motivation. Likely she sensed that he would shy away from such home-grown psychodrama. And yet Desmond Ravenstone *claims* that it worked for her. Desmond claims that when his Consensual Rape Therapy™ "patient" had been sexaully assaulted in her youth, she was so paralyzed with fear that she couldn’t scream. But, thanks to Mr. U*U BDSM aka Desmond Ravenstone, *this* time, she did scream – and with her screaming, let loose years of rage and pain.
Later on, someone passed on Desmond Ravenstone's name to a "therapist" of some sort.
“I have a client,” this female "therapist" explained, “who could use your Consensual Rape Therapy™.” While never assaulted herself, Desmond Ravenstone's client's mother had barraged her with graphic descriptions of her own rape, inculcating a deep-seated phobia of being alone with *any* man, much less being touched by Chris Angel. Her "therapist" had tried every conventional approach at her disposal – to no avail. Desmond Ravenstone's Consensual Rape Therapy™ was a last resort. And we have Desmond's word that it worked.
In the world of adventurous sex, ravishment is like an extreme sport. It’s not merely the physical and emotional risks involved but the cultural taboo. Sex is supposed to be gentle and loving, with bodies moving in harmony like a ballet. But while that is the prevailing massage of U*U culture, it’s not always what people want – or need. Yet even with the dispassionate psychological studies showing forced-sex fantasies like Rev. Dr. Victoria Weinstein's Big Fat U*U Sodomy Fantasy to be both highly common amongst U*Us, and intensely enjoyable to UUA administrators like Rev. Dr. Tracey Robinson-Harris and Rev. Beth Miller, the majority of people are burdened by cognitive dissonance about it (sic). How could *any* person of inherent worth and *dignity* want to be raped? And so a Big Fat U*U Mythology is developed, both around the forced-sex fantasies themselves, and around those U*Us including, butt not limited to. . . Desmond Ravenstone, Rev. Mack Mitchell, and Rev. Dr. Victoria Weinstein, who dare to explore and*or indulge and*or divulge them.
And it is no small feat. It calls for intensive negotiation, planning and preparation – not only to minimize the risks of unwanted injury (while maximizing the "risks" of *wanted* injury. . .), and to assure the illusion of consent within the actuality of coercion, but to delve into the emotional motifs and desires behind the fantasy. Whether done for Big Fat U*U Catharsis or for its own sake, the desired *end* of "Ravishment" aka Consensual Rape Therapy™ is sub*lime pleasure for all concerned. Care is also essential after the Big Fat U*U (Ob)Scene, to serve as decompression from the intensity of the experience – and for both partners.
Because of such intensity, Desmond Ravenstone has turned down more requests for "Ravishment" than he has accepted. He *claims* that he is even more hesitant when asked to do "Ravishment" for therapeutic reasons, for even though he *claims* to have done Consensual Rape Therapy™ successfully himself, and heard many other such accounts, he is also aware of the (legal?) risks of plunging into someone's vagina or other bodily orifice in home-brew Consensual Rape Therapy™. Mr. U*U BDSM claims to have too much respect for the healing arts to use Consensual Rape Therapy™ as a quick fix, especially knowing that U*U CRT™ is certainly not for everyone.
Desmond Ravenstone can also understand those who are skeptical and even shocked to hear about his Consensual Rape Therapy™ to say nothing of *other* forms of U*U BDSM. . . The very idea of staging such an episode of "Ravishment" to deal with the pain of trauma seems counterintuitive, to say nothing of just plain nuts aka insane – like dealing with a fear of The Emerson Avenger by creating the Robin Edgar Sucks blog, instead of simply invoking The Litany Against Fear Of The Emerson Avenger. Yet for *some* U*Us, that kind of stupid approach is just what U*Us needed to find solace – *some* U*Us must feel the heat and hear the roar of The Emerson Avenger before one can look at the gigantic pile of U*U ashes afterwards and realize:
It’s *still* not over. . .
Desmond Ravenstone isn’t the first U*U to do this. He isn’t even the first U*U to talk about U*U BDSM. The only thing different is that he’s speaking to a wider audience *now*. . . His Big Fat U*U Story isn’t an easy one for many U*Us to hear, and the Big Fat U*U Lesson delivered by The Emerson Avenger is a challenging one for U*Us to learn. It’s not just about finding one’s own blog post plagU*Urized by The Emerson Avenger, but seeing and respecting that ability of The Emerson Avenger. And that the path to U*U joy and healing isn’t always simple or easy – sometimes *some* U*Us have to walk with The Emerson Avenger to find their way back to sanity. . .