Dr. Karen Rayne Would Have U*Us Know That Preteenagers And Teenagers Are Sexually Assaulted And Sexually Harassed By Their Peers
So I posted the following comment to the blog post titled 'Reporting sexual assualt/abuse/harassment' on Dr. Karen Payne's Adolescent Sexuality blog -
"The reality of the situation is that preteenagers and teenagers are sexually assaulted and sexually harassed by their peers."
To say nothing of "less than excellent" Unitarian*Universalist ministers and aging U*U lay-people who may even be "family members". . .
U*U blogger Dr. Karen Payne has some other valuable advice about sexual abuse and harassment that I believe is worthwhile plagU*Urizing here by posting a slightly modified version that both broadens its scope beyond sexual abuse amnd sexual harassment and narrows its scope to the abuse and harassment that I have encountered in the "less than perfect" U*U World -
First, by saying, “Well, it might have happened once, but it’s not common,” is hardly consolation to the individuals involved in this case, but instead continues to label these people as different and weird - of being different in a bad way, which is often particularly painful to people. Second, the research is clear: The vast majority of sexual (PlagU*Urizer's note: or indeed non_sexual) assaults, abuse, and harassment are not reported. So the absence of reporting of U*U clergy misconduct and other cases of abuse and harassment perpetrated by Unitarian*Universalists does not mean that there is not a problem. . .
Burying our heads in the sand and saying it’s rare is not a fix - or even a band-aid - but it continues the harm of the victim by making them standout as freakish.
Ideally we U*Us would live in a culture where this sort of thing never happened. But we don’t live in an ideal world*, and pretending we do isn’t going to make it so. The only way to reduce abuse of all kinds is by bringing it out in the open and having the extraordinarily painful conversations (aka dialogue) that it requires.
Couldn't have said it better myself. . . ;-)
* U*Us live in the U*U World